TENets: A Code for Living Life with Ease

TENets: A Code for Living Life with Ease

These “tenets” came to me as a proverbial download in March of 2018.

Mostly it’s advice I give myself – sometimes that is the best advice of all.

Presented in 4 parts:

ONE

1) (PL)EASE

2) BENEVOLENCE

3) HELP

4) HOME

5) RELISHES

6) CHANNEL

7) LEARN

8) SHARE

9) CELEBRATE

10) CAN

TWO

1) (PL)EASE – say it with ease

2) Open-hearted benevolence

3) Help others, and self, when needed and possible

4) Feels at home anywhere and helps others feel the same

5) Relishes earthly possessions but is not tied to them

6) Values health above all else

7) Views self as an open channel to give and receive love and light; the body is a temple, the home for the soul

8) Knows there is always more to learn and isn’t afraid to get “dirty” doing it

9) Looks at each day as a reason to celebrate

10) I ALWAYS KNOW I CAN (I never thought I couldn’t)

THREE

1) (PL)EASE – say it with ease; this word opens the world and literally makes everything easier – say it to others, say it to yourself.

2) Open-hearted benevolence – you ever know where you can do good or from where, or whom, good will be done to you.  Do good, be good but do what is best for you.

3) Help others, and self, when needed and possible – you never know who you can help or, conversely, who can help you.

4) Feels at home anywhere and helps others feel the same – observe your surroundings, assimilate and stand out with confidence; take care of those who feel less comfortable than you.

5) Relishes earthly possessions but is not tied to them – enjoys clothing, accessories, luxuries of all sorts, experiences, travel but nothing defines her or weighs her down. The saying holds weight here: you can’t take it with you so live life to the fullest NOW. Enjoy with joy.

6) Values health above all else – the body is a temple, the home for your soul. Worship it, love it and it will love you back.

7) Views self as an open channel to give, and receive, love and light

8) Knows there is always more to learn – education never ends; expansion is eternal.

9) Looks at each day as a reason to celebrate – everyday truly is your BIRTHDAY. There was no assurance you would wake up today and what if today is your final day on earth? Do you want to spend it denying who you are? What you can contribute

10) I ALWAYS KNOW I CAN – total confidence, no expectations, on her one schedule. I never thought I couldn’t

FOUR

1) (PL)EASE – this word opens the world, everything is easy when you open up Tom needing help. It’s easier to say thank you but please is eternally more profitable. EASE comes from saying PLEASE.

2) Open-hearted benevolence – you never know who you can help, you ever know who you can help, or conversely, who can help you. Everyone has something to teach us about the world, about ourselves. Keep an open heart, an open mind.

3) Help others, and self, when needed and possible – do good, be good but do what is best for you.

4) Feels at home anywhere and helps others feel the same – observe your surroundings, assimilate and stand out with confidence; take care of those who feel less comfortable than you; build confidence in others and show that you are comfortable anywhere. LEAVE NO TRACE OTHER THAN ON THE HEARTS OF THOSE AROUND YOU.

5) Relishes earthly possessions but is not tied to them – enjoys clothing, accessories, luxuries of all sorts, experiences travel but nothing defines her or weighs her down. Experiences spirituality in the ritual of getting dressed and expressing individuality.

6) Views self as an open channel to give, and receive, love and light by valuing health above all else – the body is a temple, the home for your soul. Worship it, love it and it will love you back. If you don’t have your health, you have nothing; if you don’t have health, channels shut down.

7) Knows there is always more to learn – education never ends; expansion is eternal.

8) SHARE – express who you are and it will inspire others to do the same.

9) Looks at each day as a reason to celebrate – everyday truly is a BIRTHDAY

10) Says: I ALWAYS KNOW I CAN – total confidence, no expectations, on her own schedule. Positivity translation of: I never thought I couldn’t. Leave room for deciding when but always knowing you CAN if you decide you WILL.

Photography by Sonya Highfield

Pack like a ROCKSTAR

Pack like a ROCKSTAR

It’s a bit counter-intuitive but a small, well-planned suitcase gives you a plethora of options plus the ability to feel unhindered by your baggage.  Keep it to a carry-on and make sure everything you take with you is worthy of a place in your bag.

Remember this “packing zen” phrase:  

Large, heavy suitcase: struggle and forget things.

Small, manageable suitcase: forget nothing, wear everything.

5 Strategies for Feeling Fab No Matter Your Destination:

1)   Pack for 3 days – prepare for one hot, one cold, and one rainy day (apply as necessary).  What you need for 3 days is the same as what you require for 10 so focus on minimalism.  Align your itinerary with the weather and it helps to select a tonal palette of colors: choose a capsule of 3 base neutrals and two accent colors.  This will also aide you in accomplishing strategy #2.

2)   It’s a big PUZZLE – think of it as a game: each item needs to serve more than one purpose.  Lay it all out on the bed or the floor – walk through each day’s activities and envision the outfits.  Interchangeability is a plus i.e. a dress for evening becomes a dress for day; plays well with sneakers and heels.

3)   Fold & Roll – maximize space and minimize wrinkles by turning every item into a burrito-sized roll.  Stuff shoes with smaller items like socks and underwear.

4)   Prioritize – sometimes our imaginations are bigger than the suitcase; put the most important, must-have pieces in first so you don’t end up cramming the essentials in at the end.

5)   Travel Outfit – look nice for the best treatment but go for comfort.  Who do you think will get the upgrade? The woman in yoga pants and sneakers or the one in skinny jeans, ballet flats and a perfectly draped scarf?  Layers are key for fluctuating temperatures and en route is the best time to transport bulky items like sweaters, outwear and shoes.

BON VOYAGE!

Helena Grant is the founder of the personal styling company H.GrantStyle and creator of the online course BE YOUR OWN STYLIST.  She is on a mission to ensure every woman everywhere feels like a ROCKSTAR every day.

 

Packing List

Destination: Anywhere in the world

Duration: 3 days. 10 days or 3 weeks

Weather Preparedness: Hot, rainy, cold (30-70 degrees)

Important activities

      Touring

      Enjoying

      Exploring

      Dining

      Feeling awesome all the time

Style Itinerary:

Travel outfit

      Skinny jeans (dark wash or printed)

      Belt

      Tank top

      Lightweight sweater

      Leather jacket

      Moto boots

      Blanket scarf

Day 1 – Exploring, hiking

Morning: Athleisure

      Deconstructed flannel

      Printed leggings

      Tank

      Wide belt

      Sneakers

      Hat

      Sunglasses

Evening: Loungewear

      Jogger pants

      Tank

      Sweatshirt

      Ballet flats

OR

Evening: Out to Dinner

      Fitted Dress

      Leather leggings

      Ballet flats

      Vest or leather jacket or both layered together

Day 2 – Touring

Morning: Athleisure

      Long black leggings

      Sport tank

      Performance top or long cashmere sweater

      Mid-weight zipper jacket

      Sneakers

Evening: Dinner

      Distressed jeans

      Silk blouse

      Striped cashmere sweater for warmth

      Vest for added coziness

      Moto boots

Day 3: Shopping

Morning: polish so the shop clerks treat me well

      Printed travel jeans

      Striped long sleeve shirt

      Moto boots

      Skinny belt

Evening: Dinner at the bar

      Leather leggings

      Fitted dress

      Ballet flats

      Vest

OR

      Distressed jeans

      Cashmere sweater

      Moto boots

      Leather jacket

Travel outfit

      Printed jeans

      Tee shirt

      Flannel shirt tied at the waist

      Moto boots

      Leather jacket

 

Packing List:

Yoga/Athleisure clothes

      3 pairs of leggings

      Lounge pants

      4 Tank tops (for layering)

      Sports top (built-in bra)

      Sports bra

      Warm layer

      Vest

      Jacket

      Sneakers

      Socks (3-4 pairs)

      Baseball hat

Other

      2 pairs of jeans

      2 short sleeve tee shirts

      1 long sleeve tee shirt

      2 sweaters (wool/cashmere preferable)

      Ballet flats

      Blanket scarf (wrap yourself up on the plane!)

      Winter hat (beanie) or warm headband

      Underpinnings

      Water bottle

      Sunblock

      Sunglasses

      Gloves

      Dop kit (hair, skin and tooth care)

      Make-up bag (for headshots)

      Chargers – phone/ipad/computer

Photography by Sonya Highfield