IT IS UP TO US

IT IS UP TO US

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IT IS UP TO US

Hello, WHOA-MAN!

Yeah, that’s right. You are a bombshell. A knockout. A GODDESS.

And I mean, come on. We all know woman came first.  

(Sorry, Adam. You’ve been lied to all these years).

So I want to know…when did women start shaming themselves? Where did we go so awry and move away from our essence? Our POWER?

I know it’s on the INSIDE but it is up to us to change the conversation with ourselves.

Starting Monday, November 26th I’m hosting a Body Positivity Celebration because we women are miraculous machines and when we honor the vessel given to us, our bodies respond in amazing ways.

Join me in this 7-day online summit of everything that makes us *WHOA-MEN* beautiful.

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How will you fete your fabulousness? Let me help you. Get ready to accessorize and ignite your femininity.

CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE PARTY!

Below is what I wrote in response to a recent incident when I bore witness to my 4 year-old daughter being body-shamed. It was perfectly innocent but it was not ok.

And so I truly believe…

IT IS UP TO US

It is up to us

to change the conversation –

alter shame and perspective

turn them into celebration.

Different is not bad,

change is not the enemy;

uniqueness makes us powerful

we are a force all our own.

It is up to us

to embrace who we are

as we are, eternally

without restraint.

Our strength resides within

where it is easy to protect,

and sometimes hide,

because that is what we think we must do.

It is up to us –

the we of femininity,

from which all life originates,

to change the conversation

WITH OURSELVES.

 

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I keep wondering where it began, this conversation that leads women to self-loathing.

We can blame so many external influences and though i don’t deny that other people’s words have a profound impact (I’ve been the victim of body-shaming, too) I feel all the more called to empower each one of us against the harshest critic of all – ourselves.

When we embrace who we are, as we are, we are more powerful and our bodies (and brains) respond positively to our desires.

But when we beat ourselves up, when we fixate on the “fat” and “imperfections” we hinder our progress.

Let’s do something about it.

CLICK HERE to join my 7-Day Body Positivity Celebration

All you need to do is submit your email (and click for the double opt-in) and on Monday, November 26th I will be sending daily emails with inspiration and insight on how to love who and what you are RIGHT NOW.

It’s about choice and how we chose to support ourselves in our efforts. Choice in how we express ourselves.

SHOP THESE LOOKS by FEMALE DESIGNERS with discounts off any purchase

#1 La Fille Colette (10% discount included in this unique link)

#2 Lalla Bee (use code HGRANTSTYLE20 for 20% off)

#3 Yellowcake Shop (use code HGRANTSTYLE10 for 10% discount)

 

 

Foundational Pieces for a Fabulous Wardrobe

Foundational Pieces for a Fabulous Wardrobe

You know the feeling the instant you put on the garment.

You are powerful. Unstoppable. Ready for anything.

And it doesn’t have to be an anomaly.

With a wardrobe comprised of carefully selected, well-curated pieces, you can step into any outfit, any time and experience the confidence you need to tackle any day in every way.

It’s not about quantity.  It’s about QUALITY.

Not long ago, for me, it was the opposite. I was shopping all the time and had serious closet overwhelm. Every time I got dressed, all my clothes would end up on the bed.

The process went something like this:

Vacate the closet… exhaust myself putting together something that might get compliments because a lot of it was new.

Shove everything back in the closet.

Rinse.

Repeat.

In my journey away from those slightly {ahem} “shopaholic” tendencies, I now embrace that the overstuffed racks of a fast fashion store will not solve my problems.

What we wear says so much more without speaking and I have found that an empowered feeling comes from garments that stand for something; clothes with a deeper message and meaning; clothes that support me in my life and lifestyle because they are glamorous no matter what I am doing whether it is gliding to a client meeting or running around with my 4-year-old.

When you are curating your wardrobe, one that allows you to dress intuitively, I recommend starting with a foundation of pieces that are both fabulous and versatile.

 

Here are my picks:

 

1)   UNIVERSALLY FLATTERING DRESS: dresses are ALWAYS my go-to because the eliminate decision fatigue: one garment. Zip. Done. Accessorize as necessary. And there’s a dress style that looks good on EVERYONE and is appropriate for every occasion: cap-sleeve, natural waist, flared skirt. One of my personal favorites for this type of design is the line called Lalla Bee because everything she creates is perfection on its own.

 

The dress I am wearing (pictured here) is even more memorable when I #PutABeltOnIt and finish the look with tights, booties and a metallic blazer.

 

 

The embroidered florals add an extra feminine touch, the stretch in the sleeves means I can hail a cab as easily as I can lift my 42-lbs mini-me.

 

 

And the pockets…ohhhh, the POCKETS! Set me free! Deep enough and hidden between the folds of the skirt, ready to take up the weight of my car key, phone, a lipstick.  

 

 

Best of all, this is a design that make me feel like doing a twirl. Clothes are a celebration – they should make you want to dance as quickly as they should make you feel like you can take on the world.

 

Shop this dress and all other Lalla Bee styles for a 20% discount!

Code: HGRANTSTYLE20

2)   SWEATER THAT FEELS LIKE A ROBE: There are those items you feel like you could live in – they are so versatile that they look equally fabulous with your yoga clothes as they do with jeans or a dress and boots.

 

 

You try it on and you just know. You think: I can’t live without it and what did I do before I had it? It wraps around you perfectly, cinches at the waist and highlights all your best assets making you feel like the goddess that you are.

 

 

This particular Portmanteau was partly inspired by me when I styled the fashion show for La Fille Colette. This powerhouse designer has been on my radar since 2016. Her designs are unique, forward thinking and, best of all, her clothes are sustainably made in America with incredible craftsmanship and quality materials. The Portmanteau is the newest addition to her line and I plan to live in it every season from now to eternity.

 

 

Shop La Fille Colette for the Portmanteau and all other style with THIS LINK and receive a 10% discount off your purchase.

 

3)   OUTERWEAR THAT PROTECTS AND PROJECTS: Wherever you live, you likely need some sort of outerwear whatever your geography.

 

 

We on the East Coast (i.e. New England), multiple coats and jackets are required to span the range of weather we encounter. But the one style that is sure to be worn incessantly? The Classic Trench Coat. For me this one by Yellowcake was love at first glance. The minute I put it on I knew I had a lifer with its impeccable tailoring, thick and sturdy twill, cavernous pockets and best of all, stretch along the underside of the sleeves. I wear it as a topper and as a dress – it’s that amazing.  

 

 

Go ahead, rain on my parade. In this trench I will never feel a drop.

 

I work with these labels of an affiliate basis because I BELIEVE wholeheartedly in the women behind the brands.

 

I know them personally and I know their products well. Because you are a part of my amazing audience, I can offer you beneficial discounts on these above listed items that will surpass most of what is currently in your wardrobe.  

**Beware: WATERFALL EFFECT in the direction of a well-curated closet is a distinct possibility.**

Here are the links with the discount codes again for easy shopping:

UNIVERSALLY FLATTERING DRESS

Code: HGRANTSTYLE20 for 20% OFF all styles

SWEATER THAT FEELS LIKE A ROBE

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OUTERWEAR THAT PROTECTS AND PROJECTS

Code: HGRANSTYLE10 for 10% off all products

Everyday Superhero

Everyday Superhero

It is up to us to change the conversation with ourselves.

There are things we say without speaking and the messages ripple outwards.

It is up to us to take responsibility for being our own everyday superhero.

The message we send to the world, and most importantly to ourselves, must be intentional, pure and nurturing. Our power resides within, where it is easy to protect, and hide, but that outdated and ineffective approach is ready for a rebrand.

It is time to take the leap, to support one another by first cultivating our own, individual expansion.

There is no collective without the individual.

Every day we make choices and when you dress intuitively, decisions become more fluid. You have more time and energy to allot to the important things in life like taking care of yourself and re-distributing well-being.

Take the leap.

Don’t wait for a costume change.

Wear your superhero logo on the outside for all to see; display your strength of choices. Celebrate who you are by embracing the magnificent machine that is your body.

Be your own Wonderwoman, Superwoman, Captain Marvel. Be a changemaker by supporting changemakers.

When we work together, we are emboldened.

This blog officially launches my affiliation with female-owned, sustainability-minded brands.

Pictured here is the Yellowcake Classic Trench which I wear as a dress and a rain jacket. It’s sexy, versatile and perfectly equipped to take me from the concrete jungle of Boston to the Connecticut countryside playground. The detachable hood and deep pockets make me feel like all buildings are only as high as a single bound.

Here is your assignment, if you choose to accept it:

CLICK HERE to purchase the Yellowcake Classic Trench
CODE: HGRANTSTYLE10 (for a 10% discount)

The 4 Shoe Styles Every Woman Needs in Her Closet

The 4 Shoe Styles Every Woman Needs in Her Closet

Flat

Lift

Sneaker

Bootie

Think about how amazing your feet are. As someone who used to hate mine I’ve come a long way from thinking they would be better off without the toes that are exact replicas of my father’s (and all my relatives on his side of the family –strong Irish genes, you know).

But really, your feet support you in so many ways – and in all we do from running, jumping, skipping and dancing to just standing still and staying upright.

And the best way to support our feet in supporting us?

Fabulous shoes, of course.

This does not have to mean wearing stilettos all day long every day (though if that’s your thing, go for it!).

When I say fabulous shoes, I mean footwear that supports you in your life and lifestyle – shoes that are both function and aesthetically appealing.

I have been in a lot of wardrobes.  I have seen a lot of clothes and many, many pairs of shoes and, having danced a million miles already, I have identified four basic styles that are at the foundation of any complete wardrobe:

FLAT  – your go-to style.  A flat can be worn just as easily with jeans as a dress (which is what you want out of all your shoes.  Versatility is KEY). Personally I love a pointy-toe ballet flat because it elongates the leg.

LIFT – it’s a well-know fact that high heels were originally invented by a man with the absolute intention of changing a woman’s physiology – no wonder you feel different in a heel. Specifically I say LIFT in this case because it does not have to be some absurd hindrance of a stiletto.  Instead look for something that brings the height without sacrificing your ability to walk. Think: wedge, kitten, platform or block heel. And, if you do opt for a stiletto, ensure the “pitch” is manageable which means the distance between the heel of the shoe and the fold of the foot is not too short i.e. the longer the distance, the lower the pitch, the more comfortable the shoe.

SNEAKER  – serves many purposes and even if you “don’t exercise” a good sneaker – especially a loafer-style (something with more flair that foam) can serve you well for outfits that run the gamut from dog walking to brunching to mastering your daily commute.  The key with sneakers is to opt for fancier materials (think satin and pony hair) to keep them looking more fashion forward rather than gym rat schlubby dumpy.

BOOTIE – a style great for all seasons, all weather, all outfits.  Look for something that hits right above the ankle bone and all the better if it has a stacked heel which helps distribute your weight and makes the booties more durable.

The real trick of all this is finding just the right shoe –something this is distinctive and yet highly functional.  I have personally tried out many, many pairs and am a huge fan of www.shoesofprey.com for their incredible selection of made-to-order options.

TENets: A Code for Living Life with Ease

TENets: A Code for Living Life with Ease

These “tenets” came to me as a proverbial download in March of 2018.

Mostly it’s advice I give myself – sometimes that is the best advice of all.

Presented in 4 parts:

ONE

1) (PL)EASE

2) BENEVOLENCE

3) HELP

4) HOME

5) RELISHES

6) CHANNEL

7) LEARN

8) SHARE

9) CELEBRATE

10) CAN

TWO

1) (PL)EASE – say it with ease

2) Open-hearted benevolence

3) Help others, and self, when needed and possible

4) Feels at home anywhere and helps others feel the same

5) Relishes earthly possessions but is not tied to them

6) Values health above all else

7) Views self as an open channel to give and receive love and light; the body is a temple, the home for the soul

8) Knows there is always more to learn and isn’t afraid to get “dirty” doing it

9) Looks at each day as a reason to celebrate

10) I ALWAYS KNOW I CAN (I never thought I couldn’t)

THREE

1) (PL)EASE – say it with ease; this word opens the world and literally makes everything easier – say it to others, say it to yourself.

2) Open-hearted benevolence – you ever know where you can do good or from where, or whom, good will be done to you.  Do good, be good but do what is best for you.

3) Help others, and self, when needed and possible – you never know who you can help or, conversely, who can help you.

4) Feels at home anywhere and helps others feel the same – observe your surroundings, assimilate and stand out with confidence; take care of those who feel less comfortable than you.

5) Relishes earthly possessions but is not tied to them – enjoys clothing, accessories, luxuries of all sorts, experiences, travel but nothing defines her or weighs her down. The saying holds weight here: you can’t take it with you so live life to the fullest NOW. Enjoy with joy.

6) Values health above all else – the body is a temple, the home for your soul. Worship it, love it and it will love you back.

7) Views self as an open channel to give, and receive, love and light

8) Knows there is always more to learn – education never ends; expansion is eternal.

9) Looks at each day as a reason to celebrate – everyday truly is your BIRTHDAY. There was no assurance you would wake up today and what if today is your final day on earth? Do you want to spend it denying who you are? What you can contribute

10) I ALWAYS KNOW I CAN – total confidence, no expectations, on her one schedule. I never thought I couldn’t

FOUR

1) (PL)EASE – this word opens the world, everything is easy when you open up Tom needing help. It’s easier to say thank you but please is eternally more profitable. EASE comes from saying PLEASE.

2) Open-hearted benevolence – you never know who you can help, you ever know who you can help, or conversely, who can help you. Everyone has something to teach us about the world, about ourselves. Keep an open heart, an open mind.

3) Help others, and self, when needed and possible – do good, be good but do what is best for you

4) Feels at home anywhere and helps others feel the same – observe your surroundings, assimilate and stand out with confidence; take care of those who feel less comfortable than you; build confidence in others and show that you are comfortable anywhere. LEAVE NO TRACE OTHER THAN ON THE HEARTS OF THOSE AROUND YOU.

5) Relishes earthly possessions but is not tied to them – enjoys clothing, accessories, luxuries of all sorts, experiences travel but nothing defines her or weighs her down. Experiences spirituality in the ritual of getting dressed and expressing individuality.

6) Views self as an open channel to give, and receive, love and light by valuing health above all else – the body is a temple, the home for your soul. Worship it, love it and it will love you back. If you don’t have your health, you have nothing; if you don’t have health, channels shut down.

7) Knows there is always more to learn – education never ends; expansion is eternal.

8) SHARE – express who you are and it will inspire others to do the same.

9) Looks at each day as a reason to celebrate – everyday truly is a BIRTHDAY

10) Says: I ALWAYS KNOW I CAN – total confidence, no expectations, on her own schedule. Positivity translation of: I never thought I couldn’t. Leave room for deciding when but always knowing you CAN if you decide you WILL.

Photography by Sonya Highfield

Your Closet is an Altar

Your Closet is an Altar

It started happening early on – my clients would say:

“I feel like you are doing more than just helping me figure out what to wear…”

And it’s true. But I didn’t really understand all of it until recently.

The fact is, my work comes from a deep place of believing that every woman everywhere deserves to look and feel beautiful and powerful every day.

It is this belief that drove me to launch H.GRANTSTYLE and what spurred me to create my online offerings (BE YOUR OWN STYLIST and Capsule Creation Crash Course).

And recently I realized something…you can take it or leave it.

There’s spirituality in the process of getting dressed.

When you wear something that represents who you are, who you want to be, the Universe responds in incredible ways. When you celebrate your beauty with clothes you know look good, your body and mind align.

You empower yourself by integrating the inside and the outside.

And it doesn’t have to be expensive.  It doesn’t even have to involve new clothes – the best way to initiate this is with a shift in perspective. By making the choice to decide you will honor your beauty, and celebrate it.

I believe that a woman’s closet is her “altar” –  it’s a place where her expression of beauty starts every day and it represents a density of symbols – the brands she loves, the things she believes about herself. Your closet is also the one thing in your life over which you have complete control; there is ritual involved when you put on something that makes you feel unstoppable.

And when you feel unstoppable – that’s when you become one of those women who people always say: “WOW, she always looks fabulous!”

In my opinion, this can happen every day whether it’s a Little Black Dress or a pair of jeans that fits just right, even yoga pants can illicit this internal feeling of empowerment and an external reaction of compliments.

Whatever you wear, it needs to FIT you both literally and figuratively.

And as for the “altar” part? That’s where we get into the logistics of organization and merchandising your closet so it looks like your favorite boutique, a topic we cover in a dedicated module of BE YOUR OWN STYLIST.

But all of this takes effort – at least in the beginning as you are setting up to #DressIntuitively (side note: will link to challenge evenually).

It’s so easy to say: “It doesn’t matter how I look.”

I actually hear this a lot. I try not to get too perturbed but, when you say it doesn’t matter how I look, this is what you are really saying:

It doesn’t matter = I don’t care

I don’t care = I’m not worth it

I’m not worth it = a crime against yourself

You are ALWAYS worth the effort. You are BEAUTIFUL. Let your inner goddess shine. Watch and see how differently people respond to you – watch and see how differently your respond to yourself.

Photography by Sonya Highfield

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